Be Your Best Academy

Week 1 is called "Your Time is Now" and covers the experience of being single. We acknowledge the grief of losing that relationship and explore how to welcome change. There are also tips to forge a new identity as a confident single person. 

The activities booklet in Week 1 include guided visualization and manifesting exercises, reflective questions, and practical tasks to create change.  Drawing on cognitive behavioural therapy, positive psychology, acceptance and commitment therapy and techniques from integrative counselling, the exercises are designed to help you shift your thought processes in conscious and subconscious avenues and orient yourself to an idea of 'welcoming SPACE'.

Week 2 is called "Building Confidence" which focuses on developing your intuition, and re-discovering your self-belief.  In this chapter, we again address the aspect of loss, but revisit it to learn from the pain. You are given the opportunity to recognize your own fear in loss, and to explore feelings of letting go. We also unpack how a strong view of yourself often hinges on what you believe you deserve and how you process change.

The activities booklet in Week 2 also include guided visualization exercises and practical tasks to create change.  In this section, we draw on more positive psychology techniques and dip into a little bit of childhood reflection to help you realize what limiting beliefs might be holding you back and to assist you in seeing yourself as a person who has wisdom to impart - from your past experience.

Week 3 is called "Acknowledging Fear" which covers setting personal limits and understanding what non-genuine relationships look like.  We also introduce you to the 'Meta' concept, or 'intuition', to help guide you with decision making. We also felt asserting boundaries was key to healing from a break up, as boundaries are essential in a relationship. They keep you safe, but also ensure your needs are met. When a relationship ends, you may feel 'raw' or as if some of your boundaries were violated.  Indeed, being confident in a relationship involves asserting your needs and speaking up when you feel your are being unheard. This "assertiveness" is also helpful when returning to the dating world, as identifying toxic connections early can improve your chances to develop a relationship that is positive and rewarding.

Activities in Week 3 primarily involve reflective and specific questions following ideas in the Antecedent-Behaviour-Consequence (ABC) Model of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The ABC model explores how you react to an event and what that reaction leads to.  As such, exploring boundaries in this way will help you discover your weaknesses and give you a chance to practice being 'strong', saying no and asserting yourself.

Week 4 is called "Welcoming the New" where you learn how to confidently move towards a future you desire.  The activities in the Week 4 booklet include reflective questions, guided written visualization exercises and options to try out specific practical experiences to better assist you in finding out your interests as a single person. 

Activities in Week 4 follows a solution-focused model, to encourage taking action, inspired by self-knowledge and exploration. We introduce goal setting and allowing when mental health issues make things tricky. The final booklet builds on everything you have learnt so far, and hopes to give you the tools you need to paint a new future for yourself.

This entire course is designed so that each week builds upon the previous. All activities, when you give them your best can help you to make sense of your personal experience to help you heal from this breakup.  

This being said, as we understand relationship breakups are complex, we recommend if you have a therapist/ psychologist at this time, do keep seeing them whilst undertaking this course. A combination of both practices will better help you manage emotions.

Have a go and see what you think!